Let Go of the Super Mom Myth

I’m sure you will agree with me that you want to be the best mom you can be, I certainly do. But with all the responsibilites that come along with being “mom” and just life in general can be quite overwhelming can’t it? I’m sure you’ve seen those moms that just seem to have it all tgether. Does it make you push yourself harder? It’s a normal reaction. I think we all do that at times.

In our efforts to be that Super Mom we saw, we tend to sacrifice ourselves. We don’t care for ourselves like we should. We develop poor eating and sleeping habits, we may not exercise as much as we should and we just get plain get stressed out.

But did you know this doesn’t just affect us?

We pass on all those bad habits onto our children which defeats our attempts at being that Super Mom.

Don’t do this to yourself and unravel all that great work you’ve done with your kids thus far. Forget the Super Mom Trap ad grab Aurelia Williams’ “Real Life Guidance to Getting out of the Super Mom Trap”. Aurelia is a Certified Life Coach, the mother of 3 children herself and she specializes in helping moms just like us.

In this concise and actionable 29-page guide, she shows you:

- How various media portrays the Super Mom, making you feel guilt for our perfectly natural imperfections.
- Easily saying no and without the guilt.
- Stories of real moms who are breaking free from the Super Mom Trap and how you can too.
- Learning to delegate (no, YOU don’t have to do it ALL) and getting more done.

If you’ve had enough of trying to be everything to everyone, but still want to ensure your family and personal happiness, grab a copy of the guide now. You can download it instantly, plus you’ll get a bonus 25-minute “Stress Less” audio recording making it even easier to unload all that is bogging you down.

Learn more and instantly access your guide at Getting Out of the SuperMom Trap

Get back that Balance and Contentment You Desire

I know you know how busy the woman of today is. We play so many roles, wear so many hats, I bet you can’t even keep track sometimes. I know I can’t. I could get lost in everything I have to do. And if you are anything like me, you end up working so hard caring for everyone else’s needs that you sometimes forget about your own. You can relate can’t you?

But wait, you need to remember life is about balance. If your world becomes unbalanced how will you be able to care for those you love and who count on you. If you need a little more balance in your life, time to care for yourself (without ANY guilt and yes, the hard part - guilt-free) and a little confidence boost, I recommend picking up the “Journey to Joy” toolkit by Aurelia Williams. She is one fantastic lady and friend.

Aurelia is a Certified Life Coach and she’s put together some practical resources to help you find that joy in your life and get that balance and contentment you desire and deserve. There’s no need to spend your days pretending to smile on the outside and being a stressed out wreck on the inside. We’ve probably all been there. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. Belive it or not, it is possible to have it all and on your own terms.

The Journey to Joy guide will help you
- Get rid of negative thoughts and “Mommy Guilt”
- Break bad habits and choose healthier ones for a happier and healthier you
- Provide you with Easy-to-use tips to boost your self-confidence
- Learn Techniques to reduce your stress levels
- Find more positive time for yourself

Plus you can download extra audio recordings, guides and worksheets to help you with everything from balancing your life, reducing stress and begin taking action on what you’ve learned in the Journey to Joy guide.

Get all the details and grab yours at: Real Life Guidance: Journey to Joy
So, what are you waiting mom. Get that balance and contentment back in your life and stop allow life to take over.

Enjoy life again.

Top 10 Ways to Reconnect with Your Family

Sometimes life is so busy we lose track of time and lose the close connection with the family we love so much and work so hard for. Take time to reconnect with your family. Aurelia Williams of Real Life Guidance has provided me with this free ebook just for you:

Top 10 Ways to Reconnect with Your Family.

Inside you’ll find some great tips and ideas on how to reconnect with your family. Just click on the link:

Top 10 Ways to Reconnect with Your Family

and save to your computer.

You know the old saying, take time to stop and smell the roses, well there are just too many of us that are just too busy to remember to stop and smell them and we lose out on so much joy. Make sure your family isn’t those roses you don’t have time for.

So grab your copy, read it through and put into practice some of those ideas and smell those roses and enjoy your family and the time you spend together.

Enjoy!

How To Help Your Teens To Become More Organized

How To Help Your Teens To Become More Organized

Some would joke that the only way to motivate teens is to threaten or bribe them, well those may work but in the long run, they won’t teach your teen the valuable lesson of accountability {smile}.

As you know, teens never seem to lack motivation to do what they want to do — talk on the phone, meet up with friends, go to the movies, etc. But, when it comes down to getting them to do the things that we want them to do and the things that the need to do, that seems to be a different story.

Here are some tips that we as parents can use to help motivate our teens to become more organized.

Build your teens confidence by identifying the ways in which he or she is already organized. Everyone, including your teen, shows signs of being organized with some things. Teens love to be acknowledged for a job well done so if your child does a great job organizing his or her school work or his or her clothes, try to encourage them to apply those same organizational skills to the other areas in their life that can use some organizational help.

Teach them & Have fun. Perhaps your teen really doesn’t know where to begin! Socks here and there, books under the bed, clothes stuffed behind the hamper. All of this can seem like a battle for them that is useless to fight. Why not set up a date with your child to organize his/her space together. Turn on the radio (to their favorite station of course) and together work to de-clutter the space. Keep in mind that your organizational style my not work for them so ask them questions as you go along and try to help them figure out a way to organize things so that it is easy to keep up. Another fun way to get them motivated is to provide fun, funky and cool storage bins to use for those small items that seem to just collect in the corners of their rooms.

Set Clear Rules and Let them set the schedule: Be sure that you set clear rules as to what is allowable daily clutter and what isn’t. For instance, if you don’t allow food or dishes in your teen’s room, be sure that they are following those rules and respecting them. If shoes on the floor are OK, then let them know that as well. Teens need clear-cut rules to follow. Sit down with you teen and simply ask them “What day can you carve out at least 1 hr to do a full room cleaning?” and let your teen set a day (either weekly or biweekly). What this does is let them know you value their time and schedule and it makes them accountable.

Finally, be sure you reward and commend your teens organizing successes with either a small token of additional freedom or kind words. Keep in mind that being organized is all about being responsible. For a teenager, gaining trust and freedom from parents is one of the biggest motivations of all.

Want more tips on parenting your teenager? Visit Parenting My Teen. It provides free resources and a free podcast for parents.

The Importance of Family Time

Whether we are working outside of the home or inside the home, it is becoming increasingly more difficult in the age of “instant communication” to take some TIME OUT for family. We have the cell phone, Blackberry, Instant Messaging, and the list goes on of ways that we can be contacted instantaneously. And in each of those moments our attention is diverted from whatever we were doing to give our attention to the “new” pressing issue.

Let’s face it; most of us take Family Time for granted. If you are working outside of the home, it is easy to let those precious few evening hours be taken up with phone calls, returning email, putting “final touches” on work related items, etc. If you are working in the home the distractions are similar; phone calls, volunteerism, housework, etc. The point is that working parents (both inside & outside the home) are letting outside influences take precedence over Family Time. Would we let having to stay an additional hour at work in order to send the CEO the sales figures for the 1^st quarter have priority over our child’s ballet recital? Would we allow getting the last load of clothes laundered take precedence over singing “The Wheels on the Bus” (for the 100^th time) with your toddler? Each of these things is important and depending upon our value system at the time any of these activities may or may not make it to your priority list. If you “schedule” the time, you may be able to get more “Family Time” than you thought.

Here are a few tips to finding more Family Time:

SCHEDULE IT! – Almost everyone has some system of remembering all the things that need to be done at work/home. Whether it is a Day-Timer, a Blackberry, a refrigerator calendar you have a way to keep track of the myriad of activities in your family. Family Time is a priority that you want to find time for so schedule it. In our home, Friday night from 6:30pm until the kids’ bedtime is Family Time. We all have to do an activity together. Each child gets a chance to choose what he/she would like to do for our Family Night and EVERYONE has to do it. This is a great way to get everyone together and you can find times in the midst of your time together to get to know what is happening in your child’s world in a relaxed setting. Some of the favorite activities at our house; the arcade, bowling, Scrabble tournaments, Uno, music concerts, and movies.

COMMIT TO IT! – It is easy to let phone calls, email, net surfing, etc. to take your attention away. Don’t let it! Turn the cell phone off, turn the computer off, turn the Blackberry off and truly give all of your attention to your family for your designated Family Time. Don’t let anything intrude on your time and your kids will see how much Family Time matters to you, how much they matter to you.

ENJOY IT! – If you are not accustomed to scheduling a block of Family Time, the prospect of spending a block of unstructured time could seem a little daunting. In order to ease into a comfortable time with your family, you might first want to schedule “activities” that take you out of the house. With activities, there is an opportunity to bond during the activity, but if there is a lull in communication it will be OK because you can focus on the activity.

Aurelia Williams is a certified life coach and author of Real Life Guidance: Finding More Family Time. Take the 1st step to finding more family time today.